Now I want to go on to express my feelings about the matter….In Webster’s dictionary, the word diversity, (meaning variety) could mean the production of an acceptance of a sinful behavior such as homosexuality. Companies who pour millions into the gay agenda should say, we are going to support homosexuality, (a production in killing your kids)! Instead they use the word “diversity” to make it sound justified and pitiful. Diversity as such today is extremely dangerous, not productive!

How can people be so misled by the use of the word “diversity”? I want everyone to understand, no one should be treated unfairly in a work place. I did not want my son to be treated with disrespect…even though he was doing something wrong.  He and everyone else deserves to be able to work and support themselves. I wish someone who Russell worked with would have been able to talk to him about the sinful behavior of homosexuality……but then that would have been harassment under the word “diversity.”

No one should push their bad choices on those who do not agree with them. There are so many employees who disagree with  “diversity” in the workplace, but they have to cope with it in order to keep their jobs. I know these are things I hear about a lot. This is what diversity is all about with the homosexual agenda…… forcing sinful behavior on everyone who does not agree with them. 

Russell was a wonderful young man who worked very hard, and four years after college died with the horrible disease AIDS! He had it all taken from him by making a sinful choice.  I am very concerned with homosexuals working in restaurants or around any kind of food jobs. I don’t think homosexuals should work in schools either, in order to brainwash! 

The main reason for writing this is because of how many companies are getting on the band wagon and supporting gay organizations with millions of dollars of money we pay them.  These companies are misleading everyone! The ones who are pouring money into supporting this dangerous lifestyle may as well be pouring poison down the throats of our young people. It all seems so normal to accept the lifestyle because you like someone, (as I have heard many times) but it doesn’t mean you have to accept the abnormal lifestyle.

I wonder if the companies who support the homosexual lifestyle would like to post pictures in their business places of our Russell and all the other young people who have died of AIDS!!! Of course not! It would not be something they would even think about! Why? Because it would be the truth about“diversity”, (acceptance of homosexuality and what it does to a human being). I hope someone in these companies would get the message! They are helping to kill our kids!

Our President even supports homosexuality! Tell me our country is not in some real trouble! 

No one could ever imagine the turn of events we found when we went through the court case to get Russell’s body brought home. Now that we look back and looking at the truthful facts more closely, we realize we did not have a chance fighting the homosexual agenda. This is what it turned out to be….an agenda. We believe there was too much going on with our lawyers, the Judge and Kevin and his parents, (who supported the homosexual lifestyle).

Russell was naive and fell into trusting and believing the wrong people! This is why his beautiful was destroyed. This is the consequences of the homosexual lifestyle……there is no loyalty in a homosexual relationship.

I will never get over all that was done to Russell to give him HIV, but I will continue to try and make those who give HIV knowingly be help accountable. Russell was treated very badly when he was ill with AIDS. He was just another person with AIDS and no one cared about him. I know he is looking down and knowing the truth now. He knows his Mom will make things right if she can. If I can help one person, I will make Russell have a great big smile in Heaven. (Refer to story about why I know Russell is in Heaven). I know he is smiling right now! That is why I am working so hard get his story out there.

So many children today as young as primary school are being brainwashed into thinking gay is “cool.” I wish I could get through to some of these kids who are like Russell and are being brainwashed into thinking they are born homosexual and it is “cool” to be gay in school. This is a lie from the pit of hell……and I do not care to tell it like it is!

How outrageous for companies to use our dollars we spend with them to support killing of our children! I don’t support these companies and I hope others will refuse to support them too. You can find companies who support the gay agenda online. Many organizations are trying to help save people by telling the truth about the homosexual agenda. These organizations are accused of being hate orientated, but the homosexuals who are the ones who attack viciously when they are confronted. 

Lowell and I know what hate from the homosexual activists is like. We have been through over ten years of it.  We were attacked viciously on the Internet all during the court case, in a local newspaper, and through a wave of letters to our attorneys from Kevin’s friends. We can tell anyone who speaks out against homosexuality, you are going to be attacked with vengeance! It is those who speak out in the name of Jesus who really care and love the homosexual.

I have spoken about “diversity” because in my mind it has such a horrible definition, in that it is just an excuse to justify something that is so wrong.

Lowell and Carolyn Groff

Proverbs 16:25  There is a way that seemeth right unto a man, but the end thereof are the ways of death.

We loved Russell so much, and after he died was no different than when he was alive. We constantly tried to keep him in out lives, but it was hard when someone like Kevin is constantly manipulating him.

We are the only ones who loved Russell as God would want a parent to love him. Russell really got himself involved with some evil people, and Satan gained control. Not only did Russell die, but with his death, our lives were destroyed too. This kind of lifestyle does destroy families, and especially the parents. No one will ever know what we have been through until my book is complete. 

When we were trying for six years to get Russell out of this mess, we stayed torn up all the time. It was a battle loving him and trying so hard, all the time knowing we were dealing with evil. Russell’s parents were the only ones who cared enough about him to try to get him to leave that lifestyle.

Russell listened to the wrong people! When he got so deeply involved, he was unable to fight off the devil. This is what often happens.

Russell and Kevin did not have the loving relationship as is portrayed on the Internet. They were constantly fighting, which is usually normal in this kind of relationship. Anyone who has been in it, or is in it can confirm this.

You know what one lawyer we had, (the second one) said to us. ”Well, all married couples fight!” This man claimed to be a Christian!!!! He may fight in his marriage, but not all of us do. All married couple disagree, but not fight. We witnessed a lot of stuff first hand that went on with Kevin and Russell. There was control over Russell…….

Kevin and his friends have really slandered us, but it is to make people feel sorry for poor Kevin. One point that was made in one of the stories where people were collecting money for Kevin to fight us in court, was that we had an endless source of money to fight Kevin. I want the world to know, it was not us that an endless source of money, it was Kevin. I would be curious to know how much money Kevin collected from this endeavor.

Kevin had used Russell’s money, and we believe had charged stuff on his credit card. I am not making this statement lightly…..I know I would have to prove this, and could if anything comes up about this statement. I tried to make the court demand him show expenditures on Russell’s credit cards when he was to sick to be buying things Kevin claimed he did. The court refused…..in fact the lady at the accounting office was nothing but rude and mean to me.

Our lawyer would not help me get this done, as with everything else. He did not even try to fight the case.

We were fighting the homosexual agenda in trying to get our son’s body buried properly. We have been fighting to just visit his grave and put flowers, etc, on his grave for over five years. They have finally decided to leave us along now. It is such a shame they were doing this for spite, and they call themselves religious. We suffered greatly at the hands of these people. They were doing as Kevin wanted, and he wanted nothing but to show his authority, (not matter how he got it) and to harass us.

We go there and plant flowers and keep his grave up as we know would please him. I know how he loved flowers, and we work very hard to keep his grave looking nice. It is not tacky either. Some king of animal in the woods keep digging down into his grave. I hate this, and put sticks in the holes to deter this.

Back to the things I have read on the Internet, which makes me about sick to my stomach. Anyone who helps me, they attack too. I know many people who have read this, and they think it is sickening the way we have been attacked. This homosexual agenda is out of hand, and Russell death was used to further it. My son is gone because of this mess.

I am not making excuses for Russell and his bad choices, but I am trying to tell these kids who thinks this is fun, that it is not!!!!! Russell was a good kid, he just got with the wrong people, and that is how it usually happens…..

Russell was raised in a good home, and taught right from wrong. I do not like it at all when the parents work so hard to give a child a good life, both morally and physically, and then people brainwash them like Russell was.

I get very angry at all the stuff going on in our world, and how this agenda is being preceived as an alternative lifestyle. Why don’t they just put it out there about how you are going to die a horrible death from AIDS, like my son did. He was a naive, kind young man who turned away from his moral beliefs by getting involved with the cult of homosexuality.

I am so sick of all these lies, and I will forever fight to expose all that was done to Russell. There is not one bit of truth coming from the gay activists out there. They write all this stuff that Kevin feeds them, and they have no idea who we are. I have even ask that people contact me and talk to me, but no one has the nerve. The lies are their way of getting some kind of perverted satisfaction.

I have addressed one such person who has put some stuff out there to others about us. I only wish he and others could realize how dangerous they are living. These lies that homosexuality is okay, is just that, a lie!!

Russell’s name had been drug through the mud on the Internet, and so has ours. My effort to start a website has been slandered too, but I want the truth to be out there. This is the true side of the story……Fighting all these lies is very hard, I am only one mother who has lost her son to this lifestyle, but I am one mother who will keep fighting.

Lowell and Carolyn Groff

What can we do? Speak the truth in love and compassion! One person can make a difference….maybe even save a life!  

The gay lifestyle is being portrayed as, “who you are” and it is not. It has been proven no one is born gay, it is a choice. We all make bad choices, and these choices can be changed!

I find it very disturbing when people in places of authority, who are supposed to remain neutral, support the homosexual lifestyle. They have few moral values when they uphold such evil. These days, everything you see and hear is about the gay lifestyle. Children are bombarded everywhere with the perception that the gay lifestyle is fun. If all the young people who have died of AIDS were to be able to tell of how they had to die, no one would be in that lifestyle.

The gay lifestyle is nothing but lies! I get so disturbed every time I turn on the television, and see the smut on it. This is only one way our children are being attacked! Our schools are so saturated with the acceptance of this lifestyle, everywhere they are being told lies!

During the court case when we were trying to get our son’s remains brought home and buried properly, we encountered some treatment that should not have happened in the court. It was very obvious that we were not going to win, but we kept trying. We had the burden of proof, and we proved it without a doubt! The truth did not matter, neither did the rule of law, (reasonable doubt about the signing of the will).

Homosexuality is being pushed down our throats, and we are to accept it whether we like it or not. I have heard this diversity stuff so much until I am sick of it. This generation of youth (and I am not saying all our youth) who believes in diversity, just don’t seem to find anything wrong with the acceptance of their gay friend’s lifestyle. If they were true friends they would tell them the truth about homosexuality…..loving them is telling them the truth! Those who believe in diversity, (homosexuality) are not true Bible believers. 

I find it hard to believe Russell had any friends, who cared anything about him. These so called friends were the ones who helped him to his death. This is what happens when you fall into the wrong crowd, and the wrong church. 

We fought so hard to get our son’s remains, and found liberals just stomped us into the ground for going against the gay agenda. Those who did all the dirty stuff to Russell and to us, will one day have to answer to the almighty God. God is a just God, even if the courts aren’t.

We as parents are in danger of not being able to talk about the death of their son from AIDS, because of all the legislation that is being presented by some of our politicians. We have to pray for all those who fight the activists and their so called bills to support the gay agenda.

We believe homosexuality is wrong according to the Word of God! Our story of pain and suffering is only one of many…..it will never be over for us. We have lost our a part of our souls. Losing Russell hurts so bad all the time…….we will never get over it. We believe God will prevail in all of this evil agenda to push homosexuality on the world. 

Our country was founded on the Bible, and it seems as if it is being pushed into the closet where the homosexuals used to be.

It makes me sick to think how my son was killed by someone who had AIDS! I think there should be a law to determine who gave someone AIDS, and they be punished to the fullest extent of the law, just like any other murderer. Most often, there are many ways to determine this the source of where the AIDS virus came from, if a law could be passed. 

There was no justice in Russell’s case. It was murder……pure and simple! This would seem to be a reason for speaking out about homosexuality if for no other reason. People are getting away with murder, and walking the streets with not one care about the person they infected.

Mothers and fathers who are losing their children to this destructive lifestyle every day, should realize their child was brainwashed into thinking he or she are someone they aren’t. I get sick thinking of how Russell was pulled into this lifestyle…..

What in the world is wrong when a murderer walks the streets and is patted on the shoulder, (figure of speech) by everyone….. Our son’s murderer will one day die, and I know he has Russell’s blood on his hands.

Russell was a human being who had the world in the palm of his hands. He was brilliant, and had the desire to live. No one wants AIDS! I see him every day and it is as if he is asking me to do something. I will, as long as God lets me live.

People say to me that Russell wanted to live this lifestyle, and wanted to be buried there, (even the Judge used this term) but I know better. Why was there three different versions of the burial document, one of which Kevin’s mother smudged over the signatures, to cover his sloppy work on them. Russell did not sign these documents. Three different documents, and our attorney would not use all three of them in court.  These were key pieces of evidence, and we worked hard and paid a lot to get them.

Russell was indoctrinated into a lifestyle that is very hard to get out of. He was controlled and manipulated. The lifestyle was full of pain and suffering, not the loving relationship that was told. He was constantly told we did not love him, or we would accept him for who he was. This is the kind of people Russell became involved with.

I think it is the ones who love their children so much, they don’t accept the perverted lifestyle and the danger that is before them. I have cried so many tears for my son, before and after his death.

We never stopped trying to get Russell out of that lifestyle. His dad and I spent 6 years of our life grieving over the tragedy of his being in this lifestyle, and we have spent the last five + grieving over his death and still trying to get things done.

The grief of Russell’s death has taken its toll on us, but we will keep on trying to get the truth out about the homosexual lifestyle, and the devastating affects of it.

When Russell got sick, he was just another person who everyone could not wait until he died…….and this just kills me. Russell died a horrible death……..no one cared! To think no one was around him that loved him.

We had so many things to say on the witness stand, and our attorney would not let us testify. We know this would have made a difference. Our attorney and his law clerk liked Kevin, (she made this statement to my sister) and we did not find this out until it was too late.

We believe our attorney violated some ethics by some of the things he did, and not putting us on the stand as we requested, was one of them. We knew the facts, and having done all the investigations and work on the case for three years, it was evident our testimony was supressed for reasons that we may win this case.

I had done all the work for nearly three years, and the lawyer would not use my work. It is amazing all the facts we have, and how we were done so dirty.

With the forensic medical expert we had, we should have won! None of the truth mattered in this case. When Russell was transferred to the last hospital he was in, he suffered so much from all the tests he had to go through all over again. Kevin should not have transferred him, because he was dying, and nothing could be done for him.

There were reasons for his being transferred, and one we believe was that a lot of stuff went on at the other hospital that we would find out about if we got there. We believe the staff was going to alert us, and this could not happen. This was we believe part of the reasons for moving him, and therefore hastening of his death. The lawyer should have asked these important questions about the move. It was relevant! Kevin had his say about some of the most irrelevant things on the stand, but our attorney had nothing to say to him. He did not even bother with trying to cross examine him. Kevin’s testimony was a travesty!

Kevin found out we were coming by plane, so he transferred him as he was suffering an eminent death. The purported will was made because he thought we were going to get there and would find out what had happened to our son. Another reason we believe was Kevin would find out that Russell wanted to see us, and he had kept him from us.

It was not on Russell’s death certificate that he died of AIDS, but after discussion with the hospital’s attorney and the health department, this was put on his death certificate.

There were  no papers on file at the mortuary to prove Kevin’s and his parents had the right to bury our son. It was such a farce, that the Judge ruled against us. All the evidence that was produced, (expert medical testimony for two and a half hours) and all the other stuff, the Judge did not seem to be willing to listen to the truth.

I began to research about alternative drugs, and found there was some amazing things about what these drugs do to the body….. If Russell would have gone on line and found some of what I did, he would not have taken those drugs. The anti-viral drugs would have given him many years of life.

I believe he was manipulated into taking the alternative drugs like everything else that happened to him in that lifestyle. When I found in the medical records about Russell not taking the anti-viral drugs after he got AIDS, I was sure there was something going on, but I couldn’t figure it out. There were some crazy things that went on while Russell was dying of AIDS.

Alternative drugs were the reason, (according to one doctor) that Russell’s liver was damaged so bad. Some interesting things about this that should have been brought up in court. 

I believe there was a plan to have material gain by Russell’s death. Kevin said in one of his statements, “Russell’s insurance would not pay for the anti-viral drugs.” I checked with his work, and they told me his insurance would have paid for them.

I don’t know for sure what happened here, but I would say there was some kind of interference in this situation. Russell did not get medical attention until it was too late. I can’t figure out why the doctor who diagnosed Russell did not follow up on and get the right treatment for him.

A lot of the things in the medical records didn’t make sense to me. 

Kevin making him go on the trip to Florida on vacation when Russell had quit work and was bed ridden. Kevin said in his own words, that Russell stayed in the motel room because he was so sick. This was in September, before he died in November. The the trip to Kevin’s class reunion in October when Kevin said he stayed in the motel room because he was so sick. Kevin said he was moody and grumpy, (wonder why?). This was to be the last trip my son would take, except to his grave. Kevin talked a lot…..but Russell’s parents were not permitted to testify.

Kevin said they had to come back home early because Russell got so sick. He entered the hospital and never went back home. He died in November, but it is so heartbreaking to know what my son went through during the time he was in the hospital.

We know, the only reason Kevin could not let Russell out of his sight was so he could not call us. We also know Russell wanted to let us know, and I will go into all of this later on.

Our being kept from taking the witness stand against Kevin was a dreadful thing our lawyer did to us. We had spent a fortune, and we feel our attorney stabbed us in the back. 

When we had the other lawyer that walked out on us, we subpoenaed the medical records, it was going to take 30 days to get them without Kevin releasing them. The lawyers told us that Kevin would release them sooner if there was anything in the medical records about him, then we would not expose them.

We told the lawyer to wait 30 days, because we wanted to be able to use what ever was in the medical records. The lawyer went ahead and signed the paper to get them released immediately, (and at the time we could not figure this out). We were really mad that this lawyer went ahead and did something we told  not to. What was the use of getting the records if we could not use the information. This was not ethical, we believe for this lawyer to go a head and do something we told him not to.

Kevin and his mother gave Russell’s medical records, (the volumns our attorney had his law clerk bring into court unnecessarily) to a perfect stranger in the court room. The attorney was well aware of this as he said he did not want them. Both Kevin, his mother, Kevin’s lawyer, and our lawyer is to be held responsible for the release of the records to the woman, who I believe was a member of the Friends. 

Our lawyer had three copies of these medical records copied at Kinko’s and wheeled them into the court room the morning of the trial. We believe this was to look like they had done something……which proved to be to the contrary.

This was a misuse of our money, for the attorney to copy over 1800 pages of Russell’s medical records, (times three) and bring them into court. The opposing attorney already had about three copies of these already, (including a compact disc) and the Judge had copies, and even our attorney had copies, (he made a set for him too). This was insane! Then later they told us this was the rule of law. We are not that naive! This outrageous stunt was just for show!

Now can you imagine why in the world would these people have to have all these huge books of medical records copied and brought in the morning of the trial?  Even the Judge said something to the effect, “You don’t mean for me to read all of these?”

This was outrageous! Our attorney moved to another law firm a few weeks before our case was to be heard, and we believe he did not spend much time working for us. The charges were outrageous though.  We believe he did not have any intention of fighting our case, but we found this out after the fact. He met with the Judge the morning of our case, and he completely ignored us, and would not talk to us before or during the lunch break. We believe it was not in our favor he met with the Judge, because he lied to us when we asked him after court why he met with the Judge.

Talk about freedom of speech, we did not get to even get on the stand. It was ridiculous how for two days, Kevin got to take the stand and spout off, and we were not allowed on the stand. Seems really strange, huh?

Lowell and Carolyn Groff

All during the court case people like you put things on the Internet that were simply not true. Your blogging caused a lot of pain for us. I wrote you a letter on my website hoping it would help you to realize how much the, “memorial” hurt Russell’s parents and slandered his memory. That piece you wrote was not something someone should write about a friend, especially the way Russell died. It was very hurtful to Russell’s parents.

Let me ask you Jeremy, did you read all of the 1800+ pages of medical records? Did you attend the court trial and hear the testimony of the forensic medical expert who testified for two and a half hours with graphs and charts about what was in the medical records? Did you know what was going on with Russell when the purported burial document and purported will was signed? Did you call or speak to Russell’s parents after his death? If you were his friend, this would seem to have been the logical thing to do. It seems strange that you say you did not know Kevin, but he called you when Russell died…….. 

You gay activists thought it was a terrible thing for me to talk to Peter Labarbera about Russell. You all talk to everybody about us. When he did a story on Russell, he and I both were brutally attacked. I consider Peter a source of truth in the battle to get the truth out about the homosexual agenda. Peter Labarbera would help anyone, and whether you know it or not, that is what he is trying to do for you. Peter is a good man…..maybe you could be a good man one day and help others instead of hurting them. You people who are involved in this lifestyle have been so indoctrinated and brainwashed…..and what a shame! You could do so much good Jeremy, just as many other who have realized the truth and left the lifestyle.

Russell had so much potential, and it breaks our hearts for the world’s loss of what would have been a great contribution to society. The homosexual lifestyle and the lies that goes with it destroyed all of that.

Did you go to see Russell when he lay dying of AIDS that ravaged his body? Wonder why Kevin did not call you then, if you were a good enough friend to call when he died. Kevin kept a close knit bunch of his friends around when Russell was ill, and we believe none of them had Russell’s best interest in mind.

Keeping us away from Russell was one of the worst things anyone could do……it was hard to know that Russell needed us and we did not know it. We believe from the hospital records, there was a day he asked for them to contact us. That should have been what Kevin would have done if he cared about Russell. Kevin knew how much we loved Russell, and he could not afford to let us know what happened to him. There was a lot of money involved when Russell died, and we think this was an awful selfish thing to do to Russell. We believe Russell was told we would not come, and this devastated him. When I write about how we were lied to about his illness, I cannot even believe what I keep finding out. You will hear more about all of this later.

Why did you not contact us instead of writing Peter Labarbera after I addressed your story? You might like to know the parents who loved a son too much to accept his lifestyle, yet trying every thing could to get him out of the mess. You might like to know the pain we have had to go through these last 11 years, dealing with all of this. We could tell you about the hole that has been left in our hearts, and will never mend…..If you met us, you would know that we are honest hard working people, who now have to keep suffering until the day we die because of the path Russell took.

I’m hearing about parents everyday who have read this story, and they too are suffering! I can feel their pain, and I just pray that these parents never have to suffer the way we have. I pray their son’s and daughters leave this dreadful lifestyle before it is too late.

If I can do anything to help those who are confused about this lifestyle, I sure will try! I have spent much time doing research about homosexuality, and these are things I wish I have been more educated on when Russell was alive. We didn’t know how to deal with all of it. Going through all of this has to have a purpose, and I am on my way of finding what this is……..

During the court case I did a lot of research about the pain that goes along with AIDS. I would tell anyone involved in this lifestyle to do some research and find all about this they can about this dreaded disease and how it can destroy a life like Russell’s! One may not find the lifestyle so great! When we warned Russell of AIDS, he laughed and said, “Oh, that comes from Monkeys.” Russell had been indoctrinated at that point that he couldn’t get AIDS unless he had sex with a monkey.

Funny how the most intelligent ones can be brainwashed. I have read so much about cults and brainwashing, and homosexuality is no different. To me it is a cult! If only you could picture Russell laying in that hospital with blood coming from his tongue and every part of his body……

This picture is not very funny, is it? I hope it haunts the Olives till the day they die, and beyond…. Even I cannot realize what Russell went through, and I read the medical records many times. I would just about go crazy, but I looked at every word in those records, even taking a magnifying glass and trying to figure out the doctor’s notes. This mother loved her son, and she was going to get to the truth.

It seems like the homosexuals are in denial as to what can happen to them. Many parents have had to deal with the death of their loved ones from AIDS, and they can tell you the same things I have been telling you. There was so much manipulation to keep us from our son, and I will never forgive those who did this.

You are someones son, think about that! Stop thinking that it is your life alone. I don’t care how old you are, your parents are the ones who will never stop loving you. What you do affects them too. You are destroying the ones who really love you…..You are also influencing others to live this lie too.

I love my family with everything inside of me, and I will never stop until Russell’s death is vindicated. You do not destroy this mother’s son and his family, and not be held accountable. I know that revenge is the Lords, but the things I can do will help others realize what a lie this homosexual lifestyle is, I will do……..

I did not like it being said, “I may have caused Russell’s death by not accepting his lifestyle”. Those who brainwashed Russell are the ones who caused his death. The pain and suffering Russell suffered because of our nonacceptance of the sin he was living in, was his choice. We always wanted Russell to be with us, and yes we tried to keep him here. We believe Kevin is the one who made him suffer by taking him to Baltimore where he could brainwash him even more. Kevin did not like him spending time with us, so we believe this was his way of controlling Russell. Separation by distance is one of the ways control is kept……. I learned there is always the dominating figure in a homosexual relationship. Russell was very much controlled!

The pain and suffering Russell went through was from Kevin keeping Russell from us.  The greatest pain and suffering Russell went through was when he laid in the hospital with horrible bed sores, and his body wasting away form this dreadful disease of AIDS. No one was there that really cared about him to see if he was taken care of. This is my precious son here I am writing about. Do you not get it Jeremy? 

I am writing a chapter about Russell’s hospitalization, but I have not decided if I am going to put it on the Internet. Instead of doing this, I will detail it in my book.

No one can even feel the pain Russell suffered except his parents. Maybe all the homosexual activists and friends of Kevin should feel some of the pain we felt when we read his medical records. Then again why would they care, we believe since they are a part of the lie, they have no feelings.We believe Kevin and his family never thought we would find the truth about what happened to our son, the truth they had to keep from us.

The lies that went on with this case, were just beyond belief! Russell’s parents had to drop the case! It wasn’t, ” Kevin who settled with his homophobic in-laws”. This statement that was posted on the Internet, really was insulting, but yet another lie! Everything in the court case was hearsay, and that is not supposed to happen. Our own attorney let Kevin keep on spouting hearsay, and never stopped it.

I hope one day you will realize the pain your parents must be suffering, and the pain they will go through when the word AIDS is said to them. They love you, I feel sure! They don’t deserve to be hurt the way you are hurting them. Most of all I will pray you will leave this lifestyle before it is too late. This is not who you are, and I am sure you have read my stories. This lifestyle is your choice…….no one is born gay!

The things you have once again written are the same things I addressed before. I will tell you this, my husband and I loved Russell with all our hearts, and whether you believe me or Kevin, is your choice. We were lied to about his death and burial, and only through my instincts as a mother, I set out to find the truth. What I found was shocking, and was the reason for us to go on to try to make things right for Russell.

We spent everything we had, and borrowed the rest. Poor Kevin bummed the gay community to give him money, and he ended up with his estate and a lot of life insurance. Who showed the love here? Material things were never important to us, as with Kevin. Our son was more important to us than any amount of money. We will never rest until this nightmare if over……It was that important to us to get our son brought home. It was not his dying wish to be buried where he was, and all the documents prove that. The evidence was supressed, it was misused in court, or not used at all. I have to continue to investigate all of this, and I will eventually get it all down pat.

We should have won the case hands down. There was a lot of dirty stuff done to us during this case, and the gay activists who started attacking us from the beginning was only a part of it.

Jeremy you should talk to me and I would tell you how Russell was exploited! You are welcome to contact me anytime and I will tell you these things with proof, since you do not believe what I write. My son was exploited in the cruelest of ways, before and after he got sick. I doubt you would speak out about that thought! I am speaking out about all of it, that is the least I can do for my son and his memory.

Russell got involved in a lot of things we did not uphold, but that did not make us love him any less than with all of our hearts.

This homosexual agenda, and how it is being played out is just another sign of the end times. I pray for you Jeremy! 

John 3:16 For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.

John 3:17 For God sent not his Son into the world to condemn the world; but that the world through him might be saved.

John 3:18 He that believeth on him is not condemned: but he that believeth not is condemned already, because he hath not loveth in the name of the only begotten Son of God.

Psalm 44:20 If we have forgotten the name of our God, or stretched out our hands to a strange god;

Psalm 44: 21 Shall not God search this out? for he knoweth the secrets of the heart

Psalm 44 :22 Yea, for thy sake are we killed all the day long; we are counted as sheep for the slaughter.

If you would accept Jesus as your savior and believth the word of God, you could take off all the stuff you have on the Internet, and use your time and money for the glory of God. We are all put here on this earth for one reason, and that is to do what God wants us to do, not what we want. So many of us forget that there is a greater being, God incarnate, in Jesus. We are so close to the end times Jeremy, so I ask you to think about what you are doing, and if you want to be doing that when Jesus comes.

God wants us to witness for him here on this earth. This will be our rewards one day…..and these are what you do for his glory that you will be judged for. What you are doing is an abomination to God, and it grieves his Holy Spirit. Anyone who tells you the life you are living is right, they are telling you one of Satan’s lies. My heart hurts for you! I will pray for you.

I’m sure you have been told of all the scriptures about this homosexual lifestyle and what God thinks of it, so I will not go into all of those right now. If you want to change your life, you can have more to look forward to than you can ever imagine.

Carolyn Groff 

As with Russell and what he once said to his Dad, (I guess it is too late to turn back now) I believe Russell thought it was too late to turn back. We didn’t know how to handle his thinking about this, and it is something that haunts us now that we didn’t push the issue further and get the right help for him. I doubt he would have listened to us when Kevin was still manipulating him.

When Russell left Baltimore and came home, Kevin came here to get him back. He showed us nothing but disrespect when we were trying to help Russell out of that mess. I believe if he had left Russell alone, we could have helped him realize the truth. Kevin did not want to lose control of Russell. They fought all the time, and I think at some point Russell became afraid of Kevin. We believe Kevin threatened to tell us what all went on with the homosexual lifestyle. While we were so naive to what the lifestyle was about, we knew it was a horrible one.

Children get themselves into situations like Russell did, and they no longer have control of their lives. I know some get out of the homosexual lifestyle, but many cannot and they die like Russell.

I know Russell never thought his actions would cause so much pain to him and his parents. Russell was convinced he was right and we were wrong. Look what happened to him, his life was destroyed! Russell was brainwashed by Kevin, his parents and his gay friends. They convinced Russell we did not love him or we would accept the lifestyle, because that was who he was. This is a big bunch of garbage that filters through the minds of some one like Kevin who controls and manipulates someone. They have to alienate the ones who have the greatest influence over the person.

In going through what we have with Russell’s death, burial and the expensive court case to try and get his body, we have learned there has been so much that happened we were so naive about when Russell was alive. If we had just known what we know now……..

Since Russell’s death, I have tried so hard to help others learn about the lifestyle in order to help their loved ones. I hate to see them be naive like we were. Some want the help, while others don’t. I have one parent who went to a gay birthday party for her son, and now she accepts the gay lifestyle for him. They really did a number on her……she told me they were so nice to her and embraced her. I really felt sick at my stomach, because she ultimately is enabling him to live a lie that will eventually destroy him.

I feel she is very lonely and has no one else but her son, but she can love him and not accept this lifestyle for him. There are so many ways she could help him, but I guess like so many, it is easier to brush away the truth, and accept what seems to be the easier way. I just hope she does not have to have her son die of AIDS, and he is in a good position to get it.

Homosexuality is a cult, just as with other cults, brainwashing is the only way they can control. Russell was controlled, (as in brainwashing) and manipulated to his death. I guess I sound like a broken record, but this is something I know for sure.

I feel his life meant nothing to anyone but us, his parents. We did everything we knew how to get Russell out of the lifestyle, but we feel we were not equipped to deal with Kevin and his manipulation. The pain of losing our son has devastated our lives, and we know it is hard to understand why we cannot accept what he chose to do. You don’t just ignore things you know that were intentionally done to end your son’s life. Kevin has told so many lies to everyone about Russell’s death, and one day everyone will know the truth. I have many more things I have found out since the court case ended.

Eventually the true facts about what all happened to our son will be exposed! 

Russell and all other children who rebel against their parents are not only hurting themselves, but their parents. It is the one who gave them life that loves them most, not some perverted homosexual. Kevin has moved on and has another significant other now, according to his face book page.

Kevin had no love for our son, and he should give us his remains. He destroyed his possession that would have meant something to his family. He is going to have many regrets about all of this, as we are not finished! We will never give up!

Kevin brags on his face book page about his being high maintenance and easily annoyed….a fact we already knew. He took everything Russell had worked hard for, because he worked hard and was not a great spender like Kevin. Russell was not one to have to have the best of everything, because he was not spoiled. Kevin was so controlling over Russell, that he even made him get a joint bank account, so he could control his money. I think I talked about this before, this is one way of controlling someone.

Russell did not realize in rebelling against our moral values for him, he was actually signing his death warrent. I say this with all the power in my body…….he died for nothing!Russell was a good kid, and we know he would never have hurt us intentionally. He was not a gay activist like Kevin. He really got in over his head.

I don’t understand Russell’s rebellion, because he had it all, he had a really great life. I think kids think it is fun to experiment with the unknown, and then find themselves trapped in some dark and dangerous things. We as parents pray for their escape from the darkness, and sometimes our prayers are answered, and sometimes they are not. We don’t understand when they are not, but we will understand it all one day.

I know how parents hurt for their rebellious child, because the pain Lowell and I have suffered for Russell is so overwhelming.

Isaiah 30: 1 Woe to the rebellious children, saith the Lord, that ttake counsel, but not of me; and that cover with a covering, but not of my spirit, that they may add sin to sin:

Russell thought it was too late for him to turn away from his sin, but our father is a forgiving father. Do you believe in God? I hope you will listen to what I have said in my letter to you, and to all the other things I have written. It is never too late to turn back. Russell would be smiling in Heaven is he could see you change your life and turn away from this sin you are living in.

Lowell and Carolyn Groff

I love Russell with all my heart and soul. Lowell loved his son with a great passion too, and it has really been hard on him. We love Russell so much, and  will never get over his death! No one else cares enough to go there and place flowers and keep his grave looking nice. His life meant nothing to anyone but his Dad and I.

When Lowell and I went there Sunday, we found they had not only taken his orange carnations from his bronze vase, along with the yellow rose I had laid on his grave. I was really upset with this! This is just spiteful and evil! What right do they have to do this?

I know the only way we will ever get any peace, is to get him moved. I have the permission, if I can get them to release his body. It is never too late. I want to go through the right channels now, because I gave them the chance to release his body. I just wish they would realize it will eventually be a bigger mess if we do not get our son’s body and bring him home.

I intend to keep trying to get Russell moved, but if I can’t there will still come the day Russell will rise from that grave to meet Jesus in the air. Russell was a Christian and loved the Lord, he was just so mixed up by the people around him. He was a sinner, and so are we all! 

We believe these people just want to hurt us because we did not uphold the homosexual lifestyle. We believe Kevin and his parents buried Russell there for one thing, because it was cheap. Kevin had manipulated the truth to where he would get what Russell had.  We believe the results of the whole case shows Kevin did what he set out to do.

The insurance taken out on Russell’s life, puts a question in our minds as to the motives for his being given the HIV virus.  We have also wondered if the will was made after Russell died. So many things just don’t add up in the whole case. Who had what to gain! There was so many things the lawyer refused to use, and this was not right. The court case was a farce, we were betrayed by our lawyer by his not using the evidence we had in the right way.

We believe Russell had no say in his burial! One statement the lawyer could have used that Kevin made, was Russell stated “he did not care where he was buried”. This statement was made in front of the Judge. This told us Russell was most likely, we believe harassed about being buried, and he just made that statement. Even if this is not the way it happened, it told us Russell had not wanted to be buried in that woods in a pine box. Russell most likely wanted to be buried where we were to be buried. We would have given Russell a decent burial.

We believe from what we read in the interrogatories, (something the Judge was supposed to go by, but this was not even used in court) there was another will was made by him before he got so sick. In this statement by Kevin, he said they made wills together. In the deposition of the one of the witnesses to the purported will, (that was to have been made in the hospital by Kevin and two of his friends who were the witnesses) said no other wills were made at the time. Russell’s being incompetent when this purported will was made, was proven by medical expert. 

The lawyer mentioned this, but did not elaborate on it. The medical expert’s testimony was not even used by our own attorney. The Judge was supposed to have went by the interrogatories to be informed about such as this.

Lowell’s sister wrote us a letter after we had told her of what was going on at Russell grave. She told us, the people (the Friends) who were taking our decorations from Russell’s grave, would one day walk down that hill and see that grave opened up and empty. Russell’s body would not be there, and they would be “shaking and quaking.” By this she meant, the rapture would have taken place. We learned from our conversations with these people, they do not believe in the rapture). This is their choice, but we do believe God’s Word.

I Thessalonians 4:14  For if we believe that Jesus died and rose again, even so them also which sleep in Jesus will God bring with him.

I Thessalonians 4:15  For this we say unto you by the word of the Lord, that we which are alive and remain unto the coming of the Lord shall not prevent them which are asleep.

I Thessalonians 4:16  For the Lord himself shall descend from heaven with a shout, with the voice of the arch-angel and with the trump of God; and the dead in Christ shall rise first;

Lowell and I know one day Russell’s grave will open and he will rise to meet Christ in the air. Russell loved the Lord, and believed he died on the Cross and rose again to be with the Father until his second coming. Russell was led astray by a false religion though, in order for him to accept his sinful behavior. Nothing they can do will stop his rising from the grave when Jesus returns. This will irritate them by me saying this, but it is Biblical. I just hope it makes people stop and think about Christ’s swift return.

I Thessalonians 5:2  For yourselves know perfectly that the day of the Lord so cometh as a thief in the night.

I Thessalonians 5:22 Abstain from all appearance of evil,

II Timothy 2:12 If we suffer, we shall also reign with him: if we deny him, he also will deny us:

II Timothy 3:12 Yea, and all that will live godly in Christ Jesus shall suffer persecution.

This verse in the Bible that shows God is the avenger is: I Thessalonians 4:6 That no man go beyond and defraud his brother in any matter; because that the Lord is the avenger of all such, as we also have forewarned you and testified.

When I looked further to get the meaning of this verse right, I found in the commentary that Paul was telling the  apostles about what he had warned them concerning persecutions, saying to be forewarned to be forarmed…He talks about their persecutions not coming merely from the enemies of religion, but by the appointment of God. If their faith did not fail and they stood steadfast, they would be able to with stand the tempter and all his temptations.

I believe all the tribulations we have gone through have a purpose, and I will stand firm in my faith, no matter what. I know God is with me, and that is what counts. Our faith has been tested, and I know there is yet more to come. The thing people have a hard time understanding is, they cannot hurt others and not have to suffer….so many people live for themselves and have not thought of how they hurt others. It is beyond anything I can comprehend as to how these people who call themselves religious, ( of course there ares religions, but Christianity is the only way to Heaven).You cannot be evil and go to Heaven……like what these people did to Russell and his family.

I  think a lot about what is  going on with this new partner of Kevin’s, and what how much I would love to talk to him. I just hope he gets out of the situation before it is too late!

When all of this is over and I reach the end of my journey, I want to be able to say as in II Timothy4:7 I have fought a good fight, I have finished my course, I have kept the faith…

Lowell and Carolyn Groff

They had not removed our flowers, but it was only a day since I had been there. I can’t write much today, but wanted to write about Russell’s yellow rose, I know he saw me put there. If only he had listened to us……….

Lowell and Carolyn Groff

I plant flowers and try to keep them alive, because I cannot stand for his grave to look barren. They do all they can to destroy what ever I put there. I have had to replace flowers all summer. They take or break them as soon as they look nice.

I love Russell so much, my heart grieves for him every day. It is almost unbearable what this lifestyle did to Russell and his family! I wish every kid who thinks they know everything, could spend one hour with Russell’s mother and let her tell of the horrible death he died. I have all his medical records and forensic testimony about this…. They would think twice before going on with their involvement in the homosexual lifestyle. 

I intend to let everyone know what I have found out about this horrible lifestyle. It is hard sometimes to go on and try to get through it, but we do have God and we rely on Jesus to guide us by his Holy Spirit.  G

Gay activists don’t want anyone to talk about what really happens when one gets AIDS! They certainly don’t want people to know what takes place with the body as they are dying from AIDS. To make things worse about Russell’s death, we believe we know who was behind Russell’s taking the alternative natural way of curing AIDS,  instead of the anti-viral medication. This caused Russell to die and excruciating and early death! It was in one of Kevin’s statements, that Russell’s insurance would not cover his medications. When I called the place where Russell worked, they said the insurance would have paid. The lawyer would not subpoena and use this information.

A homosexual with the AIDS virus can live a longer life if they are taking the anti-viral medication. Russell could have lived a longer life, and not have had to suffer as he did. I have to think God loved him more than I did, so he had to get him out of that mess.

From one thing I found, the Quakers believe in the alternative medications, and we have our own thought about all of this. We believe this fact was used to get Russell to take the alternative medications. According to statements made by Kevin, Russell was not treated well when he got sick. I have made statements about this in previous stories about him making him get out of his sick bed and going on a vacation trip, and to Kevin’s class reunion. According to Kevin’s own statements, ( all on record) Russell had to stay in the motel rooms, he was so sick. Kevin even had the nerve to say Russell was moody and grumpy. This hurt us, because we could see how sick he must have been, and Kevin made him to go on these trips.

There seemed to be no feeling for Russell’s comfort in these statements. I really was angry about this, and the lawyer would not even do anything with this information. He just sat there and let Kevin blab on and on with stuff like this. We believe Kevin took Russell on these trips in order for him to keep him from notifying us. We would have brought our son home to be loved and taken care of. We believe Russell knew this, and he wanted to let us know. We believe Kevin would not have this.

There should be something done when a partner dies from AIDS, an investigation into the hows and why! This is a serious matter when someone knows they have AIDS and they give to another human being.

We believe Kevin alienated Russell from us by brainwashing him, (as in most homosexual relationships) and we blame his parents for their part in this too. They did some heavy interference in keeping us from our son, ( noted in documents)…..no one had the right to do this. The hospitals had the legal responsibility of notifying the legal next of kin, instead of believing Kevin’s parents, and some papers they had no assurance of knowing if they were valid. One of the documents we have, contains information where we believe Kevin’s parents overstepped their bounds of moral and professional responsibilities in telling the doctors we had disowned our son, and not to notify us. 

We believe Kevin had to gain control of everything with, (a new will)because he had already spent Russell’s money, and had a lot of insurance on his life. We tried to make the court order Kevin to do an accounting on the expenditures on Russell’s credit cards while he was sick and dying. They would not do this, and the clerk I tried to get this done through, was very nasty to me. She refused to do this, and the lawyer would not execute our wishes with a subpoena.I was so stressed out over this deal, as with the whole court case. I did all the work, and the lawyers refused to use the information I obtained.

I know the will was made when he was not competent, and manipulated like everything else in this matter.  Our medical forensic expert proved our case, and we still lost the case to get our son’s remains brought home.

The really horrible details of what happened with us being told about his death will eventually come out too.

They lied about what Russell died from, in order to keep AIDS off of the death certificate. I finally found the truth three months after the fact. We were livid, we had been lied to about the whole situation, and our son was buried with the lies.  It was going to be something they thought we would never find out about……..and a heartbreaking ordeal for us to find out. It was that feeling inside of me that had to find the truth, a mother thing……. The burden of proof fell on us, and we went all the way and found it. I am not going to rest until I get my son buried where he can rest in peace!  

I feel so much pain dealing with losing Russell, and what do those who destroyed him feel? Nothing! We believe, what they did during his illness and death, (which is a matter of record, and in a lot of documents)……only to gain control. They did not care about what Russell wanted, because if they had, we would have gotten to be there to see our son before he died. We know he asked for us……What kind of people would deny a dying son his right to see his parents. Russell knew how much we loved him…..and we always will.

If only the lawyers and Judge would have considered the truth, we would have gotten our son’s body. This seems like a real nightmare, but it is not…..it has actually happened. I believe a movie should be made of this story, it is almost unbelievable! The whole thing with the Judges and lawyers seems to us as a sinister plot to keep us from winning. 

The people where Russell is buried cannot stand to see Russell’s grave looking nice, so they constantly harass us by taking his picture and the cross. This tells a lot about them! They cannot even leave his flowers in his bronze vase….the one we had to buy when they took the other one that had been on his grave for over three years.

They left the bronze vase alone for three years, but when they had to replace it with a single stone, (to keep Kevin from getting in trouble with the insurance company) they took the bronze vase. We paid for another one, which eventually they are going to pay for, but they will have to answer for it if they do. We have made arrangements when we are gone to have someone taking care of Russell’s grave wherever it is.

The stone Kevin and his mother put there, we believe was to harass us. They didn’t know I would figure out, that it was charged to Russell’s estate and should not have been.  The Judge knew about this and how Kevin charged his half of the stone to Russell’s estate to make the cost go over the amount so the insurance would pay.

All through the court case, there was so much reasonable doubt as to Kevin’s telling the truth. He lied about so many things and got away with it. Of course he was allowed to set on the stand and testify for long periods of time, and most of his testimony was obvious lies to us. Our lawyer would not let us take the stand and tell the truth. We told the lawyer we wanted to be put on the stand, and it was his obligation to let us! He would not even let us set beside him as Kevin’s attorney did.

It seemed to us, as if our own lawyer was not really caring if we won the case or not. He did not cooperate with us about so many of the things he should have. I get so upset when I think of what our own lawyer did to our case……..a case we should have won. So much stuff Kevin did, was very questionable.

When I got to Russell’s grave today, they had taken the bunch of baby carnations Ihad just put there. I try to keep fresh flowers in his vase, and it is costly. You would think these people had some thread of decency about them, but in our eyes they are just evil……and you cannot deal with evil. They will get their just reward, and they will be judged! You cannot escape the final judgement of God.

We had worked and obtained three different versions of the burial document, and our lawyer only presented one version. We had been adamant about presenting all three as exhibits. We had the understanding when we went to court, all three were supposed to be entered as exhibits of evidence. Our lawyer on presented one copy, the copy from the Quakers, which had Russell’s purported signature had been altered along with the witnesses signatures. One of the other documents was one we had obtained in a letter to our lawyer from Kevin’s mother. This document had been smudged all over the signatures and the information Kevin had forgot to block out. If this had not been something she was trying to cover up, why did she sent such a document, since she is an attorney and should have known better. She refused to send a more legible document. The other document came from Kevin, and it was very informative. This is why his mother tried to cover up for his altering the document. They had a better one made to send from the Quakers.

These were key pieces of evidence, and if it had not been something she did not want to be seen, why did she do this? 

We had our attorney here in Knoxville, write a letter requesting a more legible copy from Kevin’s mother, but she refused to send another copy (noted in other stories about Russell). We also had him to write in the letter that she knew better than to send something like this to us, with her being an attorney. We sure had a lot of key pieces of evidence, but none if them used.

It is hard for anyone to believe what all went on with this case, because so much evidence was suppressed. We worked very hard to prove Russell did not sign the will or the burial papers. It is was a farce of a trial……an outrage!!!! I am the one who found all the information leading up to the trial, except for the important medical facts the forensic expert found. It was terrible the way the lawyer did not even use his testimony.

The people who buried Russell did some really dirty stuff. I have talked about some of it before. We know these things take time, even years to get justice.

If the people where Russell is buried, would spend the effort taking care of the place Russell is buried, instead of stealing the things form his grave, then the hazards of the place would not have cause me to fall twice. They refuse to contain the cornerstones, and the steel spikes that stick up out of the ground. There is only one that we found that was encased in a white pipe and cement. All of them should be, as they have already proven to be a danger to anyone walking there.  The grass has grown up around them, and they are really dangerous. When I fell this time, the weeds covered them. In the fall of last year when I fell, the leaves had covered them and I fell on one of them. It is hard to see these things sticking up out of the ground. Lowell stumbled on one of them a while back, and almost fell. We have damaged our tires on the car and all kinds of stuff at that place. Once we believe the glass was placed there intentionally to damage our tires.

Last week when I went to Russell’s grave, I fell on the knee that I had a total knee replacement. My whole leg is bruised, and that was a week ago. I have really had a hard time with it….and I am not sure, but I may have to have my doctor look at it. It seems to be getting worse. I did not think I was going to make it to his grave today….. and I have to put up with the harassment there. If Lowell had not been with me when I fell, I probably would have had to call an ambulance.

They destroyed my son, and they think they have gotten away with it. It is not surprising to us though,  since we have found out so much about this homosexual agenda. 

It nearly kills us that we cannot even go to his grave and grieve in peace. Russell’s body is laying in that wooden box, and he should not have died. Praise the Lord, he is not there! He is in a better place, and we will see him again. 

I don’t know how we have gotten through this, except for our faith. Through faith we have been given grace. We know we have not done anything wrong, and we have suffered so greatly. When we go through these tribulations, we have to put our faith in God, and know he is the Judge who will judge all involved.

Maybe I have a lot of feelings I should not have about these people, but it is heartbreaking to meet such people and deal with them and their wickedness. Russell was a sweet young man, ( I am not making excuses for his bad decisions)who really got led astray by these people, and this is happening all the time with other young children.

I sometimes wonder why Russell had to die, and not Kevin. Russell was a kind of person that would not hurt anyone. Russell was convinced by the people around him, this lifestyle was who he was. We know he laid in that hospital dying, knowing they all lied to him, and he believed the lie. If only he would have listened to the only two people who loved him.

If only kids would not believe this homosexual lie! But then with all the influence of today, how many more deaths like Russell’s will happen? Even with our President’s patting the gay activists on the back, and having them for horsdoeuvres at the White House, and supporting this evil and sinful lifestyle, what else can we expect! He is even sending his kids to a Friends private school in Washington. They are the same as the Friends here, except this is a very small branch. The Friends embrace  homosexuality, as many other churches are doing. I know these are not Bible believing churches.

What a horrible death my son had to suffer. No one can ever convince me that homosexuality is nothing but another one of Satan’s dirty tricks on our kids.

There is going to be some questions that still will have to be answered in some improprieties. The mortuary that buried Russell illegally has some answering to do also. Kevin’s parents have some things to answer to also, and just because they are attorneys, they are not exempt. We thought attorneys were bound by the law, so we thought if we found the truth, we would win. The burden of proof was on us, and we found this proof, but it did not matter with these people. I am not degrading the whole system, because we had some really good lawyers helping us, but they could not handle the case in Baltimore.

An attorney in another state told me he wished he had a license to practice in the state of Maryland, he would take the case for nothing. I know there are good attorneys, but we just a couple of bad ones.  I could not have found the truth without the help of some good people, and for that I will forever be grateful. We worked very hard to prove our case, and if it had gone before a jury, we would have won!

Liberal activism ruled over our case. Kevin and his friends were not reprimanded, or sanctioned for their actions during the course of the trial. They slandered us all over the Internet, even linking the slander to the Judge’s website. I know she knew what was going on, and she should have sanctioned him. It was very obvious she did not like us, and if we had done as Kevin did, we would have been sanctioned.

There is a God and he is in charge, even if we do not understand some things. We have to depend on God and know we must obey him. Homosexuality is a sin! It is evil, and it is destructive!!!! These are things the activists do not want to admit…..or have anyone talk about. You are homophobic if you talk negative about homosexuality.

When I was at Russell’s grave today, I thought of how many more young lives will be lost to this lie of homosexuality. The Hollywood movie industry, liberal news media, and homosexual activists are sick! They are promoting homosexuality as though it is a normal thing. This is what makes me so mad! I get really tired of homosexual activism! Forcing their sick views on people who don’t want it! Even on the streets of our cities, we have to be exposed to all of this homosexual stuff. 

The only way I can express my freedom of speech is to do it this way. Thank goodness we do have some who some people who are strong enough and smart enough to wage a war on homosexuality! We have got to do something! Stand up and speak out, or more kids like Russell will be laying in coffins, or pine boxes in a throw away place, like Russell is.

I want to see Russell so bad, and I grieve every day for him. He seems to be about all I can think about. Even after nearly five years since his death, I still ache inside. The things that were done to Russell during his illness and death are horrendous.

Lowell has a really hard time as I do, and I don’t think it will ever get any easier.

Lowell and Carolyn Groff

We have been tormenented about what is going to happen to Russell’s remains when we are gone. One of the sprouts that had an acorn attached, had about a seven inch root to it, in only a few days of growth. We worked hard to try and keep the acorns off his grave, but it was impossible to keep all of them off. It is heart breaking to know these will grow through the pine box, and his remains will be lost in the tearing of the roots through it.

This is part of the reason we have to get our son removed from that place, and God is helping us to obtain the information to do so, and get it in the right hands.

We put Iris cuttings on his grave this week. Two of the beautiful hybrid Iris were ones Russell had bought the bulbs, when he was about 12 years old. He loved flowers, and I know he was smiling when we placed them there. One is white with purple edges, and the other is a huge yellow hybrid. I put other colors there too, that I had grown.

Of course, they had taken his picture and cross again. This is just something they do for spite.

This is a short story, but yet a part of each week at his grave.

Lowell and Carolyn Groff

You  did a good job of spreading your vicious propaganda about us on the Internet, and even writing to people I know. Why can’t you just write me a personal letter? Even better, why don’t you meet with us, and talk about what seems to be some issues you have with us.

If you were a friend of Russell’s, (like many others who wrote slanderous stuff to gain sympathy for Kevin)  you would have respected Russell, and not have degraded his memory by attacking his parents. We know Russell loved us, even though we disagreed with his choice to ruin his life. 

I do not believe the things you said about Russell setting at a gay bar, and slandering us. Kevin went on a hidous campaign to get people to write stuff about us on the Internet and to the Court and our attorneys, so you would not be exempt from that group.

 You seem to know more about our son than we did…..when you were only a bar tender.

As I see it, you are more involved with Kevin than you were with Russell. This is why he contacted you about writing all the lies in your website during the court case. I am sorry you felt this was necessary to do this for Kevin, when you had no idea who we were….very unfair Jeremy.

One thing you did say, ”Russell sat at the bar and wrote poetry while everyone else was partying.” I think I am right about this quote, (which may have been frivolous to you) but it told me that Russell was not interested in what others were doing. I hate the whole scenario of his being in a gay bar, but some of the things you said,  made me think he was not there to enjoy it, he was there because Kevin wanted him to be. Like when he was critically ill with AIDS, and Kevin made him get out of his sick bed and go to his (Kevin’s) class reunion. I am sure you have read this on the website.

I will never believe he sat there writing poetry and telling you awful things about his parents, (Russell was not like that).You stated Russell had different colors of hair each week. I think this was a statement made by Kevin, he was good at saying things that were degrading to Russell. Russell never colored his hair, he was home several times a week when he was in college. He always come home to get home cooked meals, and do his laundry. We saw him often, even after his involvement in the homosexual lifestyle. I know you have read what I have written about this, so I won’t go into it again. I do know you did not know who our son was, and being a casual acquaintance like so many, you should not consider yourself the privilege of spreading propaganda about Russell and his parents. This showed us you were doing this for spite, and for what reason other than to help Kevin degrade us.

Russell worked hard getting through college, even after he became involved in this lifestyle. We are glad he went on to finish his college education, and it is a shame it was all a waste…….  With all of Russell’s talents and sparkling personality, he could have been anything he wanted in life. He had goals for his life, but these were thrown aside and wasted just like his precious life was. I blame those who destroyed his precious life, and I will not stop until the truth comes out…….his death was a sinister plot…..What could have been, will never be.

Jeremy, I believe any homosexual can turn his life around. We didn’t know of the resources that may have helped Russell, but we still tried with all my heart and soul to get him out of this dreadful lifestyle. This is what the Olives hated, and they did everything they could to hurt us.

I would like to hear one day that you have turned your life around, and are able to call yourself an ex-homosexual. It is possible! You would find life more rewarding and long lived. You do things that hurt yourself, and others by living this lie. You have parents who hurt, because of the lifestyle you are living. Parents have this great abounding love for their children, when they love enough to say no to this destructive lifestyle. If Russell would have listened to us, he would be alive today.

I would love to know the real story behind the parents you say abandoned you Jeremy. I would come closer to thinking they did not abandon you, you abandoned them because they did not agree with you. You seem to be really out there with the gay activism! I am sure they are hurting for the way you are destroying your life. The one thing about Russell, he did not promote anything to hurt others. He would never have gotton on the Internet and did the trash you do.

Parents don’t stop loving their children and abandon them. I am sure you do not want to be around them, because they love you enough to say no to your lifestyle. You are missing so much by alienating yourself from your parents and family. It is the parents who really love you, and one day you will realize this when you are dying of AIDS. Why can’t you and other gay activists realize this lie about homosexuality. It is a sick distorted sin!

I have prayed so much about this letter and how I could use it to tell you some truths. Others do not want to tell you the truth. I know you don’t want to hear what I have to say about this, but I would pray that these words will stick in your mind. You do not have to live this lie! I know you are an activist, but you can change. You will one day get AIDS, ( hopefully you are not already HIV, or have AIDS) and you will die a horrible death like Russell. No one will remember you, especially the people you think are your friends, (like Kevin). The people who will remember you are your parents, the ones who really love you. The good you do on earth will be your rewards in Heaven, if you are a believer. What you are doing now encouraging others in this lifestyle, is not going to get you there. The blood of many are on the hands of those who propagate this lifestyle.

No matter what you have done, I am sure your parents would forgive you. There is help for you and others who are living this lifestyle. I know you think you are happy, but there is no happiness in living the homosexual lifestyle, because it is not normal. It is a dark, lonely lifestyle, with many heartbreaks because it is not what God wants for your life. I am sure you would never admit the pain you go through within being a homosexual.

God gave you a beautiful life and he does not want you to waste it. He had a purpose for you to serve him, when he created you. You can change, and there are many who will help you. Contact Stephen Bennett Ministries, www.SBMinistries.org and www.gcmwatch.com for some help to change your life. These men know first hand how to change from the homosexual lifestyle, to a normal full filling God ordained life.

With all that being said Jeremy, I feel this will tell you that I am interested in you not suffering the same horrible death Russell did. I loved my son with all my heart, and all the lies that have been told, will have to be answered for. I have a forgiving heart, and even more so, God is a forgiving God. All you have to do is ask, and you shall receive.

I have never misrepresented you, (as you claim)nor any one else I have written about. I would like to talk to you one day and let you know just who we are. I am simply addressing what has been written that were not truths, in hopes of letting everyone know that if you oppose the homosexual lifestyle, you will come under attack.

I know Russell discussed this issue with other people, some who were close to him. One young man I have written about, told me of how much Russell loved us, and how he wanted us to accept his lifestyle. This young man told us of his discussions with Russell, as well as how his parents felt the same way, and struggled with his lifestyle.

Please think about what I have said, and just know I am not trying to hurt anyone by telling the truth. I want to help anyone not to suffer like Russell did.

Lowell and Carolyn Groff

Isaiah 53:4 Surely he hath borne our griefs, and carried our sorrows: yet we did esteem him stricken, smitten of God, and afflicted.

Isaiah 53: 5  But he was wounded for our transgressions, he was bruised for our iniquities: the chastisement of our peace was upon him; and with his stripes we are healed.

Isaiah 53: 6 All we like sheep have gone astray; we have turned every one to his own way; and the LORD hath laid on him the iniquity of us all.